Dating/crushes and AF/chronic Illness

Interesting query this.

I've not posted much, and essentially been working on creating the life I want regardless of my 'illness'. I've decided to buy a house, go to salsa lessons, start thinking about a web project I want to do and generally be more positive and chatty to whoever I meet, after a lifetime of shyness. Physically I've not noticed a huge improvement, but I just thought bugger it I can actually do these things instead of wasting time trawling the internet.

All great stuff, and none of it feels like I'm overworking my body, in fact the opposite is probably true. With my own house I can truly make my surroundings as conductive to healing as possible. Being more social tends to relax me as well and so on.

HOWEVER, with these life alterations I've also started meeting girls. The problem being, probably due to a complete lack of experience + my chronic health issues, I am permanently locked in fight of flight mode, and it's quite a nasty feeling in the body.

Case in point I met someone on Saturday last week, we got on like a house on fire and are meeting again today for a date. I can certainly allow for being a little nervous after 4 years of never having a date, but for the 6 days since we met I've literally not been able to think about anything else, and feel this horrible chronic adrenaline release throughout my body, with poor sleep, decreased appetite, brain fog through the roof etc. All my work on trying to stay in the now, focus on the things I want to do is being well and truly overrun.

Anyone else have this major exaggeration of symptoms with a crush on the opposite sex?

Perhaps I should allow for this. I don't really get this strong a reaction to anything else in life and to cut it out may benefit my physical health, but leave it unresolved emotionally as a trigger.

Anyone ever felt the same?! Any lifestyle tips? Supplements? Do I literally just try and wait it out? Stop dating? I'd have to go against my urges, but if it's for the greater good....

Ridiculous really. I may not even like her...... Tweet