Crossroads

I am so sorry for your situation and the horror that you're feeling.

There will not be a happy medium, there's no such thing as "norm}," and I was in a similar situation. I didn't have as many children, but the belief in my marriage vows were a method of control and abuse, in my case, just as they are in yours.

Man invented marriage vows, especially to exact a contract. If a couple is comitted to a strong, healthy partnership, then that comottment IS the vow. Divorce is not a mortal sin, as I once mistakenly believed, especially when children are involved. Children who are raised in an environment of abuse are 10 times MORE likely to become abusers, themselves, or a new generation of victims. My eldest son is a perfect example of this: he's a diagnosed sociopath, has had 2 wivws and beat them both senseless, is dealing illegal substances, and claims that he is a "good Christian."

Yeah, asking for help sucks, especially when it's from the government. I would strongly encourage you to visualize your options for yourself and your children. Where do you see yourself 5 years from now if you stay in your current situaton? Where will your kids be?

http://Www.ndvh.org
and http://www.lovefraud.com


Inform yourself and then make a choice that will benefit you and your children.

Brightest blessings to you.