Re: Narcissistic abuse and obsessional thoughts

Moving away isn't an option, unfortunately, due to financial considerations plus I don't have any other family or friends to turn to and I'd be completely on my own which is more frightening than staying and scares the hell out of me. The narcissist sister has threatened to track me down if I ever tried to leave. I know exactly how she'd manage that little deed by playing on other people's sympathy for her 'worry' about me. Too afraid of losing power over her plaything is all.

I think I should have also said wrongly diagnosed with that persecution complex as the stupid doctor was too dense to see that he was getting the wool pulled over his eyes. What really bugs me is that this narcissist sister is a complete mooch with an overinflated sense of entitlement, always has been with all the family, and when I tried to explain that I wasn't in any position to support the mooch financially the doctor defended her and said I had to put up with it as if I had some moral obligation to support this parasite because she's family. It's exactly the logic she uses to reel us in, that we owe it to her to rescue her from her problems because we're her family. The sister doesn't give two hoots about whether I or my family can afford to support her or not, just threatens and emotionally blackmails us into giving her what she wants regardless of how it affects anyone else then complains about how nasty we are when she doesn't get her way. Perhaps because of my own fear of not being believed I wasn't able to explain fully the true extent of her mooching behaviour and how long it's gone on, so the doctor thought I was exagerating because she's so good at playing the poor me card. I ended up feeling like I was being made out to be a selfish, uncaring person and she was the victim. I'm struggling to find a solution to this as I don't want to see her in trouble, but I can't extend myself to breaking point financially over her and don't even feel it's my responsibility but apparently, according to this doctor, I 'should' feel obligated to help out which makes me feel I don't have the right to say no to her demands. I'm wary of the consequences both from her and others who believe her manipulative tales of woe.

Sorry what is the a-hole attitude? I'm new to all this and perhaps don't understand the terminology. Tweet