Re: I am dumbfounded!

We are each entitled to our own opinion and beliefs. My philosophy, as Moderator, is that wars will not end if both sides continue to blame the other. If the one side continues to publicly blame the other for starting it, there will never be true peace.

A lot of people say on Curezone that what we focus on is what becomes reality in our lives.

Please allow for the fact that anyone, if they have the right environment and the desire, can change. If posters will refrain from blaming and backbiting and find something, even one good thing, to say about RyanD or any other poster you're in conflict with, you may be surprised at the results. Keep in mind too, it appeared sort of like cyber-lynching to me, where the crowd took matters into their own hands (due to lack of a Moderator here).

For me, part of healing is letting go of the past. For example, couples who divorce. Sometimes they continue, for years, to blame each other for what they think the other person did wrong. People can get stuck in this pattern. In my opinion, part of healing is to let go and move forward. Carrying the burden of resentment can lead to future "wars". The challenge is to admit the part that we ourselves had in it, for none of us is perfect.

Going forward, please use the alert button if you feel you've been attacked and we'll deal with this publicly and I'll let you, the posters here, take ownership and we'll deal with it together. If we start getting too many alerts though, I'll probably just start erasing posts. So the better people treat each other, the better it will go.

dbModerator