I agree with Blue Rose. You may also be married to a sociopath - sounds like he fits the profile. Sociopaths do not have a conscience, do not feel remorse for their actions, and are extremely manipulative and deceitful. They can wreak havoc on a non-sociopath (their source target victims) in the blink of an eye and the victim doesn't even realize what's happened to them. Get thyself to a divorce attorney and a counselor/therapist that is familiar with sociopathy and domestic abuse, ASAP, before this man lands you both in Bankruptcy Court!
Check out www.lovefraud.com for more precise information on sociopathy and why the victims end up looking (and, feeling) like the lunatics!