Re: love and marriage...

Hey Mr. Cuddly,

I do want to thank you; it seems you're trying to help by supplying a man's perspective and I appreciate it.

I didn't go too much into detail, but no, I don't put any pressure on him about p 0 r n because I know that I don't understand it but it is different for guys. Of course p 0 r n is better then a woman, which is why he uses is when deployed. When I found that he used p 0 r n while I was at home, it is because I saw the bill. I never mentioned to him that I saw it; he still doesn't know.

He did come to the conclusion on his own that he thinks it's not right to do at home. He'd mentioned this years ago as well and now he wants to work on it. I don't know if this is right or wrong or necessary; our church seems to have a pretty strong stance on it. I don't know what to think so I let him know that I'll trust him to do what's good for us, and our conversation at that time should have let him know that my statement was not to imply that a particular answer is the right one, because I don't know. (Again, because as a woman I don't understand it.)

His idea about working on that aspect of things has to do with a debate he's having in his own mind. The only way that I think it may be a plus is if he has been directing his sexua| energy away from us and toward p 0 r n almost exclusively. If he works to keep the passion between us and p 0 r n is not an obstruction, then I don't care about the p 0 r n.

Don't know if that makes it clear but I haven't interfered, I've been supportive and I'll leave the decision up to him. Tweet