people who want sex and don't get sex find people who do like sex.

that's the solution to your problem. you're with someone who doesn't want what you want, thus, your life will be miserable with this particular person unless she changes or you move on. happens all the time. you only get so many good sex years on a body so my adage is never to waste those years on someone who doesn't care one way or the other. at age 65, you can both not care about sex all you want...but for now...it's time to get hump'in.