Re: Looking back on a past relationship and feeling hurt

It's very normal to mourn a loss, whether it's a close relative to natural passing, or a relationship that went bad. 

Dwelling on the loss is the problem, though it doesn't sound as if you're doing too much of that.  It sounds more as if you're reflecting on how to avoid choosing a bad partner, in the future.  Good for you!!!  Putting aside education for any relationship is a really, really big error in judgment - at least, it was for me.  Our education is more important that we can possibly imagine, and it's a good thing that you didn't end up marrying this guy.  It's so very easy (and, cheap!) to get married.  Getting OUT of a bad marriage costs thousands in fees and untold emotional damage. 

That your family "resented" your relationship with this person should be re-examined.  I think "resented" may be a misnomer - perhaps, they were concerned and, rightly so.  Often, those around us can see far more clearly than we can, so forgive them for their concern.

Best wishes to you!