Looking back on a past relationship and feeling hurt

I was in a relationship with a guy for a year. It's been about a year and a half since that relationship has ended. However, during that time, it was a hurtful, depressing time for me.

I don't think about this relationship as much. However, there are times I have dreams or run into a familiar object or place that makes me relive this past. I have no intentions of ever wanting to get back with him. I always feel hurt and sometimes get teary eyed when I think of this. Is this normal? Does anybody else feel this way?


(some more details, maybe to help answer the question)
The relationship started out great. He treated me so great I didn't know what else to ask for. He always left me speechless and always so happy. However, as the relationship progressed, I was rarely treated with respect and he always belittled me. Yet, I always yearned for him. He had the tendency to make me feel good at times but feel so low other times.

The relationship overall was chaos. He still kept in touch with his ex. They talked behind my back. My parents did not approve of me being with him and resented me as a person for it even though I was an adult. I did not concentrate on college. I felt very alone during this time. I felt like he was the only one that was there. I would always wind up in tears every week. We would always have talks about the relationship, only with me being the only person talking. It felt like he did not listen.

When the relationship ended, I left and he didn't seem to care. After it got to the point where we didn't talk completely for a week, he started realizing things and finally decided to change. I never asked him for much during the relationship and he seemed to want to do that one thing I asked him to, which was stop talking to his ex. Then, it didn't matter to me anymore as I was so hurt and didn't want to go through with the relationship anymore.
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