Re: Long-Term Girlfriend Molested as a Child, Hurting our Relationship

Hi, I'm new on here, I just read your post and althought this probably won't be helpful to you, I just wanted to say I feel like I am exactly the same as your girlfriend.
I was also abused as a child and all the symptoms and effects you have described all fit with me and how I feel!

However, my boyfriend doesn't know my past, I can't tell him so that makes it hard for me :(. I feel so guilty because to make him happy I still do have sex with him but my heart isn't in it and I hate that. I just don't want him to think I don't find him attractive because I do, I just don't like sex!

I've just started counselling, I also went for my boyfriend but it's also for me because I'm doing it for our relationship. I don't know yet if it will help me but I'm hoping it does, and I would say your girlfriend should continue her counselling for this reason. Even if she says it is just for you, it will hopefully help her too in the long run. Tweet