chances are 50/50 your husband is a closet gay guy.

i deal in common sense 101, not "alternative lifestyle 101" that you'll probably hear on the topic. going to a gay/lesbian forum for help in this area is like going to ryan's buffet for weight loss solutions. here's the deal: somebody somewhere told a guy you don't know that your hubby likes guys. red flag, baby, red flag! your guy's sexual expertise is going down (pardon the pun) quickly...red flag, red flag! and when you caught him in a lie with the condoms...well, you get the picture. you are a smart woman for bringing it to his attention, and ours. it's more of a "he's a liar" problem than "he's a closet gay guy" problem. you might not like the fact that he might be, but it's 50/50 at best that he is. that's a problem, but you need to get the emotion out of it, it's tough, don't think i'm just saying stuff here to make my fans happy...get your arms around the situation that your worst fears could be true. a guy just doesn't come out with that comment, trust me on that...nobody just says that without something there. it's like if the wife and i were at a dinner party and i saw the neighbor's wife all dressed in leather head to toe and stated, "doesn't surprise me a bit with all the noise i hear over at her house when the hubby is at work." you would infer that the neighbor gal is into bondage and affairs. i just wouldn't say something that targeted without some evidentual behavior, would i? remember, booze brings out the truth in people...you mentioned the drunk guy told you this? now your ears are perking up. bottom line: somethings amiss, find out what is going on, and if you have to leave...leave. if your guy just has a dull dong for lack of sleep, lack of whatever, solve that problem. attack the situation like a man would and go for answers, go for facts, then act appropriately on the facts. leave your womanly emotions out of it. that's the one and only thing i don't like about how women handle problems...too much emotion and not enough hardcore common sense. and maybe pms...everything else i'm a big fan of.