Re: Is my girlfriend a selfish lover?

I think we have fixed the problem thanks for the somewhat help not meaning to be criticizing.

I ended up talking to her and we are working through somethings... I think we both had some screwed up self esteem and didn't know where each other stood. I also realized we just had never truely talked intmately about sex to each other.

We've been together for almost 3 years(I've known her for about 8ish and we are 23) and after we talked about sex we had the most intimate and hardcore sex we've ever had... it was crazy, I'm still thinking about it... I've never orgasmed without cumming which happend during some felatio.

A little tip for all the young and I suppose old couples... If you or your significant other is embarrassed about sex or shy about it and you or them are unsatisfied with the physical then you need to talk about it first, try some games and conversation techniques(we just played a game that I made up which was just asking what turns you on and we couldn't sexually touch the other person only talk but it lead to some intense stuff).

I think this method will only work if you both acknowledge that you love and trust each other which you MUST communicate that. Who would have thought that clear communication would work remember sometimes a message can be taken differently so ask your partner what they think you mean when you talk about complex emotions with them. Anyway some people might think a guy is a pansy for doing this but hey I did this and it worked wonders for us... I never thought I'd ever hear my gf say that she likes giving blowjobs now and wants to do it more often... instead of before where I would only get some awkward fellatio that usually had to be asked for and most of the time denied... a tip for both men and women talk to your significant other and realize sex is about pleasing the other person as best as you can... because if you are both doing that with that mind set you will have some really really amazing intimate sex.