I was looking at your own Question in your dream...
"Why am I always cleaning others stuff?"
Most of our actions can be broken down into three catagories:
The need to feel approval, or love.
The need to feel safe.
The need to feel in control.
Whenever you have a behavior that you don't understand, or want to change, you should ask yourself which of these
three is a major reason for your behavior.
Usually I find all 3 have some influence, but one will be more prominent than the other two.