Re: new to the dating scene and made a big mistake EDITED

What are your instincts telling you?  Is there a reason that you have trust issues?  Break it down for yourself to see if there is a pattern to your choices and/or thinking processes.  Perhaps, you have a reason to be distrustful.  If so, whether you're dating this guy or someone else, the issues of trust will always remain a driving force in your decision-making.  Before you even consider a serious relationship, the trust issues must be managed, and I speak about this from a personal perspective.  Blue Rose wasn't insulting you, I don't believe.  Past issues invariably have a direct impact upon what we do the present, and it's imperative to address those issues before making decisions.   You haven't even gone out with this person yet, and there's this pervasive tension, already.  The topic of sex shouldn't even be a factor until a meaningful, healthy relationship has been established.  Sex (good sex) is the byproduct of a healthy, trusting relationship, IMHO. 

That you're choosing to communicate via emails is never a good idea.  Emails, text messaging, and the like can very easily be misinterpeted, especially if we're predisposed to be quick to jump to conclusions.  Meaningful, healthy communications are conducted face-to-face.  Body language, facial expressions, and vocal inflections reveals a great deal, and we've really forgotten how to conduct this type of dialoge.