Re: Can´t forgive and forget

It sounds like she's been reading, listening or watching "The Secret". If she fully understood what "The Secret" was all about, she wouldn't be bad mouthing you behind your back!

I can understand that she would want you to think more positively. However, the way she is going about it strikes me as obnoxious. I had a friend who was into "The Secret" and would encourage me to get on board. She wasn't demanding and didn't berate me if I wasn't in a positive mood. Instead, she gave me things to read and we would discuss the topic.

When a friend isn't treating you properly, of course it's normal to feel hurt and angry. What you need to decide now is if you want to repair the friendship or let it go.

If you decide to try and repair it, I suggest talking to her about her positive thinking. If you like, you can be blunt and ask right out how she thinks bad mouthing you behind your back fits in with the principles of "The Secret". If you are satisfied with her answer, then tell her to meet you half way. In other words, she can tell you all about "The Secret" or if she has it on book/CDs/DVDs ask her to loan it to you. Also, tell her when you tell her about your problems, you expect her to listen and give you some moral support.

If you decide that the friendship is irreparably damaged, then let it go. You can explain to her why you are letting it go and tell her how she has hurt you. No matter how she reacts, at least you will have some closure.