He is in the military and has a normal job although i am not saying the military is a bad thing but he has not ever saw any real combat..But he has alot of knowledge and is very smart.We have been married for 19 years and it has pretty much been this way for about the last 5 years. I know if i go for help he will get me.My mother is 69 years old and a diabetic and is retired.Well i am bottom line afraid to get help and i know that sounds stupid and crazy.Everything has gotten very violent.Thanks for the reply.