Re: wear an herbal bouquet (lavender;-)

I agree about weddings getting out of control, my own included in that. By the time my wedding day rolled around, everyone was way too stressed out. My sister ended up screaming at me over something stupid, and my dad, wanting it to be that perfect day for me, heard her, and ran to the rescue. My dad and sister got in the biggest fight of their life that day. My sister ended up kicking a huge hole in my dad's bathroom door. My dad told her to leave and never come back (she was living with him at the time). I spent half the morning crying over it all and wondering who was going to do my hair and make-up, since my sister was the designated one, and now she was gone. At least the whole day wasn't ruined, but I have to say, that whole scene put a damper on it.
I'd have it much simpler if I had it to do over, one of those with just a few of the closest people, and no fluff (or at least very little) :)