Re: Has anyone ever had an addict wife and needs to learn new behavior to make the necessary changes to make the marriage healthy again??

As far as I know, short of locking her away, there's nothing a husband can legally do to force his wife to come clean, & treat both of you with respect.

My mom left my dad when I was 6. I hated her for it, but now that I'm older, I know what a monster he is, and I'm glad she left him. I cannot make him quit his abusive behavior either, but I can and am putting plenty of distance between us, & I'm not pretending like he's worth having a relationship with as long as he continues his abusive behavior.

If there is a better way than calling a duck a duck and putting distance between us, I'd like to know. I'm reading the Koran and found great wisdom. Do not bother praying for those whom God has lead astray. For such there can be no helper - but God of course, and He guides who He chooses and leads astray who He chooses, and none has the right to question His decisions. However, that book was written over 1400 years ago & new principles may apply. Prayer for your wife, strive & lead by example.

The only person you can change is yourself, and if she's abusing you, do not wait until you're nearly dead like I did before you leave, but if I was not being abused, I'd probably still be trying to make the relationship work somehow. Patricia Evens books, "Passionate Marriage" - another book are worth reading. Best of luck.