Re: How to deal with my problems when i cant forgive and desire revenge

Very sorry Shami to hear about the enemies in your life that have hurt you so terribly.
I admire you for wanting to forgive and forget - that is very commendable and probably the best way out for you. Harbouring hate is really toxic for anyone´s health.
Since I believe in the law of Karma - in the sense that all good deeds as well as bad deeds come back to the ones who did them, this is how I´d deal with the problem. Even tho I realize that letting go and letting "God" deal with the problem is the best way, I can understand and sort of feel how you must do with hate in your heart. In fact what has helped me most is praying to the Divine Presence in every one´s heart to help me to let go and ask for forgiveness: something like: even tho I hate ---- and cannot forgive them, YOU do it for me. That way I am capable of loving more. I believe that if you are sincere enough (and sometimes time is a factor) the hate will diminish and you will actually be able to forgive them. The sooner one lets go of the feeling for revenge, the quicker the Law of Karma takes over. Otherwise you are just as much "tied up" in the process.
What has also helped me a lot is trying to develop compassion for the person hated. Something like recalling how the person was going thru a very hard time in his own life and did´nt know any better than act like an idiot. This has always helped the more often I did it... I actually could feel sorry for the person involved. Time and the DIVINE helped!

I´ve read on CZ that many people have been helped with EFT, and will try to find the last post written recently.

In the meantime, all the best wishes for strength to overcome hate (which is another form of fear, I´ve found) and allow love to take over and heal. You will come out of this situation a lot stronger.