narcissism cured

I had to put this post out there to ask anyone who has gone to this website narcissism cured and actually had success on a long term basis. I hope that I'm not just being negative but I just don't believe that anything would change my husband or the other narcissist that I know. I knew my husband when I was 21 years old and of course he was much more obvious about his narcissism then (we're 40 now). Today he's much more suave if you don't know any better to notice. His whole goal in life is to stroke his ego; to have others stroke his ego and to punish anyone who doesn't.

I too woke up to realize my husband is a narcissist after 10 years. I completely flipped out but was truly relieved to understand that the reason for my jelousy and insecurity was because he was trying to keep me off balance. I thought I was ready to leave him that instant, unprepared. But I know myself all too well; if I left before I was ready I would become prey all over again and fall back into the same trap. Instead I have been allowing myself to see who he really is; instead of getting irate when he says or does something to hurt me. I just take notice that this is the man I married and what I see is what I get. I am growing stronger everyday; I'm working on me. I am less reactive and more confident. I also realize now that I am aware, I can let him be himself, I just stand back and watch; and people actually see it too. It doesn't bother me anymore that he could be telling other people bad things about me; lies to try to make himself look good and make me look bad, it use to make me cry, I'd get enfuriated, then all that people would see is me acting that way which was part of his plan, but its not working for him anymore. Its still annoying, and I'm sticking to my plan to exit but I need to make sure my heart is free from him first. This may not be the right way to do it but it is what I know will work for me. I have also started to surround myself with my friends and family again and I'm already feeling so much stronger. Tweet