Re: Perhaps....

love does not enslave.
any form that calls itself love, and is not, enslaves.
possessiveness enslaves... attachment enslaves... jealousy enslaves...
love allows freedom...

most do not know what love is.
hence, most do not have love to share.
they seek love in the other. for they feel they have none within themselves.
but the other neither has love to share either.
because the other is also on the same trip... looking for love in the other.
the only thing two beggars can do is to take from each other. and use each other.
using each other for sex gratification... 'making love' may be what it is called, it is not.
it is using the other... as an object for gratification... the other is reduced to an object.
there is no problem with it... it is all that is known... it is biology.
but, call it what it is, it is biological lust, it is hormone based... it is not love.
it has an opportunity to become love... but there is also a chance it may not... there is no guarantee. it depends on the individual... whether sex can rise to become love...

two lovers can meet in freedom and vibrant love abounds... such energy is delight. love is de-light... in fact, there is no tunnel, there is only de-light.

Very quietly and subtly love dies as it is replaced by attachment, as relationship becomes established, the bonds of codependency grow. it takes a watchful eye to see this change occur.
The spontaneity of love diminishes, as possessiveness raises its ugly head. Slowly, slowly the tunnel comes into existence with the establishment of relationship, the institution of marriage. And love, once fully alive, becomes more and more a distant memory as it moves into past experience, leaving only a hope that it is still there somewhere - lingering... perhaps it will be there again in some future moment... it is the light at the end of the tunnel. It is a good analogy.

Yes, indeed, without this hope, that it will someday happen again (the light at the end of the tunnel), there is really no need for two people to remain together. But this idea keeps the relationship going... the marriage continues... the family remains together.

Can one live a life that consists of loving, and only loving? Can one only go on inhaling without also exhaling? Only eating, without defecating? Only drinking, without urination?
Meditation is an elixir. If you only drink elixir, you will poison yourself...

But this is how so many are living. You go on thinking and thinking...and thinking, day in day out... in the night it is called dreaming... in the day it is called day dreaming. Constantly moving from one thought to the next... you go on accumulating knowledge and your thought process is never given a rest. it is a nonstop process of thinking and thinking...and more thinking. so many plans to make, so many things to consider, so many issues to resolve. so many voices chattering within your head... it makes for neurosis... it makes for psychosis... it makes for schizophrenia, it makes for a madhouse to exist within you... this is what hell is.

meditation is to give it all a rest. it is a way to become sane once again... so you can start again with a fresh face... a clear head.

I am sorry that you have no experience of love... no ecstasy that you have passed through... because this is what meditation is... it is precisely the same experience as the experience of love... if you have tasted it, then you know what I am talking about... if you don't know what I am talking about, then know that you are missing something that would change your life completely... it would make your life worth living again.