Re: Boyfriend's Friend moving in

I think he just doesn't understand what the big deal is about me not being able to lounge around wherever I want cooking or watching tv in my underwear. Plus I like it just being the two of us...it just makes things feel all the more special. I mean we are living the whole -might as well be married- lifestyle and I like it that way...

I'm pretty sure I've told him most of it. I'm hoping to just put my name on the lease as a resident and not be a signer so I can move out without penalty, if need be. That's only after however long it actually takes to get into a new place since of course, he won't have money up front.

If one of my friends moved up, they would have money up front and not just get up here via a bus ticket paid for by someone else because their family is so eager for someone else to take up the burden. My friends that I've talked to about moving up would always have money up front, even if they would need to find a job once they got here. My boyfriend even suggested I have one of my good friends come up too and share a house but it doesn't seem fair that any one of my friends that would do that would be able to hold their own from the beginning and not have to rely on us...it's just common sense.

He just thinks that this kid's lack of motivation and drive is okay. He has nothing more than some clothes and a guitar and doesn't seem to get that when his own family either refuses to live with him, or wants someone to take him off their back, then he needs to get his shit together. I don't want to play mama to someone who should know better when I just lost two of my own before they were even born.

I feel like talking about that just makes him think that I'm acting like I'm superior and expect everyone to think like me. I just think that someone like him isn't ready to be out in the real world yet and hasn't realized that he needs to work for what he wants.

He's so eager to have someone else up here other than just the two of us. You know how in relationships we all need someone other than our S.O. to talk to or hang out with every now and then. I'm pretty sure I've said most of it

Either way it's happening. He'll be here in a couple days... and I'm not sure how I'm going to respond or cope with it. I know if I start keeping my money separate it's going to cause even more of a strain. Apparently we just don't understand, or agree with, where the other person is coming from.

You're right though. I figure he's just not listening to me and thinks I'm being selfish but I don't want to break up with him over something that has him so excited. He always seems to understand once he experiences it but it takes going through it to realize it and not just listening to me. I guess I'm more concerned about having adequate savings to live, have emergency money, and see my family on the holidays and he just wants to have fun.