Re: What's going on?

Hi Molly,

I know what you are going through. My Daddy died November 19, 2007. I watched him suffer the last few years and it was heartbreaking to see this once active man become a shell of the man he was. He would be very sick and then be a little better for awhile. I started calling him the "energizer bunny." The last two months of his life were the best he had had in several years. I loved it and was hoping he would be well forever. He called me the day before his stroke and we had the best talk. I will always cherish that phone call.

Then came the dreaded phone call and he was gone.......just like that. I stared at the phone hating it for telling me something so awful. There was still so much to learn from him and now it was too late. I sat there that night thinking about all I learned from him. When I was six, he very patiently taught me how to push my cuticle back from my nail. When I was ten, he taught he how to bake cookies. He took off from work one day when I had a cold and made the best egg salad I ever had. So many memories and so much love we had for each other. He truly was the greatest man I will ever know.

I say all of this to tell you there will be hope after your Mom leaves you. At the time I didn't see it, but a couple of months ago, I was given a rare opportunity to be with my Mama. I moved her here. She sold her home and her car and has a nice apartment in the same town I live and we are having a ball. Because she was so confined when my Daddy was sick, she feels like a bird out of a cage. We shop together and have taken a couple of out of town trips. I was asked the other day by a friend how I am having time to do everything I am doing for my Mama and I thought a minute and told this person that this is a labor of love and I am having the time of my life. I am finding that I have plenty of time for my Mama.

So, while you still have your sweet Mama, record her voice. It will mean a lot to you someday. Just be there for her even though there may be no words spoken. You are there and that is what is important.

You have a lot of Curezone friends because you have given so freely of yourself here and I am sure this is true in your personal life, too. You will have people all around you lifting you up in thoughts and prayers.

Paulette Tweet