How are you doing, 95565?
...Likely you have gone through a lot of ideas since you posted.
One bit of advice sticks in my mind...
Whatever you have to do, do it quickly. Make a break-up as fair as you can, and as swiftly as you can.
That saves everyone heartache.
Your realization is a good beginning. Hope you were able to follow through...or that you will soon.
Or that you have found a perfect path, that serves your needs.
We can't live another's life for them...can't think or do for them. We can only support.
But we must support ourselves first...even if that means leaving everything, until we see our next step.
Give yourself breaks from obligations...your only obligation is to yourself, with others a close second.
That's the only way to get what you want to give.
My best,
Fledgling