Re: Applying this for Grief?

Grief, ahhhhh good ole grief. Grief is loss amplified. Who'd you lose??? Mom, Dad, Soul mate, brother, sister???? Tough man, not easy to deal with.

Of course we've all had those type of losses in life. And I don't know if you ever get over them. The loss of what could have been is what haunts me.

The major losses in my life happened early in life. Well, not really that early, I was in my early 20's. And one of those losses still haunts me to this day. Not a day goes by I don't think about her.

Fortunately right after those losses I got real busy and within a year I was in a war. So what I learned was even though your heart aches as bad as it does things can get a lot worse in a big hurry.

After that I considered those losss in the opposite way. I was indeed very lucky to have those people in my life for the short time they were. Mom, Dad, soul mate, combat friends. Good people, all of them left me a better person for having known them. Two of them the most influential people in my life. The memory of one of them literally saved my life when I was enjoying my "dark days" on deaths doorstep.

So grief is not resolvable via an understanding of the overt act/withhold phenomonon or the Resposiblilty axium. It's just something you have to cry about and handle the best way you can.

There are some things in life that just have to be endured, that simply must be lived through. The charactor of the individual is measured by their ability to handle it without fight or flight. To take it and still be standing when the dust settles. Grief is one of those things.

That you are still here means you made it. You're officially one of the survivors. You're still here.

It also means you're one of the good guys. Don't think for a minute our president and the people that are ruining this planet can enjoy one momment of grief. It can't happen. It's an emotion reserved for the saints.

Doc Sutter