Slipery, very slippery. A PTSD incident goes like this. This PTSD is from war NOT child abuse.
I came home from work on a Saturday. At the time our garage was under our dinning room. I pulled in and went into the basement. My wife, who didn't know any better at the time, was waiting in the dark basement and jumped out and said boooo when I walked in.
It took every ounce of self control I had to NOT make her part of that concrete wall. I went upstairs and for the next two and a half hours I was IN Cambodia. Yeah, I knew I was sitting in my recliner, next to my firplace, looking out the picture window at the beautiful Fall colors BUT I was hanging on for dear life because I was right in the middle of a 6 hour firefight in Cambodia. I couldn't talk and I couldn't let go of the arms of the chair. I was hanging on. Two and a half hours later I came out of it.
That ladies and gentlemen will ruin your life. Not the incident itself but the fact that it can happen anytime, anywhere. You lose all self confidence, you don't go anywhere, you withdraw from life.
Child abuse PTSD is much more sinister, much more slippery. The trauma didn't happen half way around the world in a war, it happened in your own home. They very people charged with your well being did the abusing.
I was taught the following data back in the Spring of 2005. I haven't been bothered with PTSD since. I discovered the same data resolved childhood abuse issues while working on several patients with "terminal" cancer. One of them brain cancer. Once the PTSD was resolved the cancer went away. So sometimes there is a mental hookup to disease. It's rare though. Most of it is indeed chemical poisoning, parasites and congestion.
Universal law: When you commit a crime against someone you will automatically withhold your love from them. It's automatic, you have no choice. You will no longer allow yourself to be friends with them. You will push them away and indeed abuse them if they don't go away. Think about that for a while. It answers a lot of questions why the world is in such sad shape.
If you steal a thousand dollars from one of your friends you WILL disolve that friendship. You will no longer be able to be friends with that person. And YOU will be the one who alienates yourself from them. Universal law.
It's called the "overt act/withhold phenomonon". It is the technical explanation behind what most people know as sin. You had it pounded into you by the preacher when you were a kid. The penalty for the sin is in the sinning. That penalty IS witholding, they both happen at the same time. Overt act/withhold.
This is HUGE when it comes to childhood abuse. After being abused the child spends the rest of their life knowing they aren't loved and they try desparately to be approved by someone, anyone. But always deep within themselves they know they aren't worthy. They know it. The very people that were charged with their well being abused them. That's tough, real tough. Once the abuse starts the abuser CANNOT love the kid and thus the abuse continues. The abuser is guilty of the crime and will withhold love from the child. Has to - it's universal law.
Of course what that says is - it's a deadend to expect love from anyone that abuses you. Deadend - can't happen. It's NOT the kids fault. Child abuse is such a hanious crime there is no way the abuser can possibly love those they abuse. It simply CAN'T happen. But the kid doesn't know that and expects to be loved and blames themselves for not being loved. WRONG - it's NOT the kids fault. It's the manifestation of Universal LAW. They ARE blameless and very worthy of being loved. But still it lingers within them. "I'm not lovable, I'm not lovable, my own parents didn't love me"...
Well, the kid didn't know that Mom or Dad had some serious flaws within themselves. Drinking too much or substance abuse or maybe they were abused as kids and figure that's how it supposed to go. It doesn't matter, the kid will blame himself. "I'm not lovable".
Overt act/withhold. Nasty to the extreme. Once you really get a handle on that the self respect comes in, perhaps for the first time in their life. It really wasn't their fault. They can see that plenty of other people like them and indeed love them so they can see that it's legitimate - Overt act/withhold. It was the abusers fault they didn't get any love from them. NOT THEIRS.
Part two: Responsibility ownership. Who's fault is it REALLY???? This was a big one for me because of the war.
In order to overcome any and all aspects of the war and what it did to me physically, mentally and spiritually I had to assume full responsibsility for the entire war. From beginning to end. All of it. Me, Ken Sutter was responsible for the whole show. Whoa, hard to do when you know you're not. I faked it and pretended I was responsible for all of it. Rather large chunk of time to swallow but I did it anyway.
Funny thing happened. Next thing you know I'm being expossed to and recieving great volumes of information about Vietnam going all the way back to its true origins back in 1945. I was responsible for it so I had to know. That went on for quite a while. looking at and learning all the various aspects of the war. Or at least the politcally correct explanations of the war.
Vietnam was tough because of all the failure there. We failed at everything we did and we could plainly see there was really no reason to fail. We blamed ourselves. "Failed to help" came into play. I remember being in one of the local villages in the Highlands pulling sick call. Which was a joke. These people didn't need sick call they needed food and shelter and serious medical intervention. Yet here I was handing out aspirin and putting bandages on their wounds that they got because WE had destroyed their village. It was tough to take. And you never forget when you see your first case of real starvation with the distended belly. I personally failed miserably to help those people. Total and complete failure.
I had claimed responsibility so finally it came down to taking a real close look at me and where I had been in the war. I started in the jungle. I remember sitting by a tree on the morning break. I was looking down at me and the rest of the guys. I looked around to see who was responsible. I couldn't find anyone in the jungle who was responsible for the war so I mentally went to the firebase. I couldn't find anyone there who was responsible for the war. So I mentally went down to Saigon. Looked over all the headquarters guys. Couldn't find anyone there responsisble for the war. Next I went to the Pentagon. Looked it over real good. Nobody there taking responsibility for the war. Next stop Washington DC. Well, turns out they knew all about the war but they were just doing what they were told. By Whom???? England, the World Bank and IMF. The ole evil empire.
All along the line people were just doing there jobs. No one even looked at the big picture. I had a good memory because of the daily trips home to get out of the insanity of war. Turns out it served me well in overcoming it. The whole war was contrived. We HAD to fail. It was designed to fail. They knew it going in. And here I was all screwed up because of the truckloads of guilt I carried because I was so helpless to help.
By taking full responsibility you get the proper ownership of responsibility for all those thngs you're claiming responsibility for. Make sense???. And it works. All my personal guilt and "failed to help" crap went away. I now knew who was REALLY responsible. And my studies confirmed it.
The Vietnam conflict started way back in 1945. If the war was legitimate we could have ended it in two weeks as the bombing raids of 1972 proved.
My understanding of the Overt act/withhold phenomonon and the proper ownership of responsibility ended my PTSD. I don't know which one was more significant but I do know I haven't been bothered by Vietnam since. Well, that's not quite true. About four months after learning this material I had the emotional release you here about when the guys go to the wall. It happened in my own living room when I recieved a model of the POW/MIA chopper the Teutals gave to the Vietnam vets association. I always thought the Wall was an insult. Dig a hole in the ground and put a black wall there. Oh that's good. Typical insult to the Vietnam guys. Anyway, getting that model choppper and the POW/MIA t-shirt initiatd the emotional release. Alway wondered about that over the years. Whenever I would think about Vietnam I would get this complete bone penetrating sadness. After the release - it's gone. Hasn't returned either.
I told a couple of my Veteran friends about this and they also applied it and resolved their PTSD. I didn't know what it would do for the cancer people I was handling at the time but I knew they were victims of child abuse and figured it wouldn't hurt for them to know about these things. So I taught them this material. It worked. The girl with the brain tumor was quite remarkable. Within two months of learning and applying this she was fine. No sign of a tumor by all the medical tests.
So it comes down to - know truth.
Two things: A thorough understanding of the Overt act/withhold phenomonon and proper ownership of responsibility. Truth. The "failed to help" is also applicable if they saw others being abused as a child.
Ownership of responsibily is a little tricky becuase you can't see who's really responsible until YOU take full responsibility for it all. They go hand in hand like the overt act/withhold phenomonon. Universal law.
That's the simplest I can explain it. Hope that helps. Any questions, don't be afraid to ask...
Doc Sutter