Please help me!

I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 2.5 years. During the time I was with him, I had started a very close friendship with another close friend of mine. For the sake of privacy, I'll call that friend Tom. Well, Tom has a girlfriend Melissa and they've been dating for about 2 months. All he has to say about her is bad things... he hardly ever wants to be around her. She lives 2 hours away. They never sit down and talk (something he LOVES to do), take walks, and they dont have similar interests at all. My problem is, I am utterly in love with Tom. And now that I am single, I am certain I want to be with him.

A week ago, Tom and I got drunk and fooled around. He said it didn't mean "something" but that he wouldn't have done it if he didn't have feelings for me. And he can't leave Melissa just yet because she would be an emotional wreck. She is much younger than him and has some issues.

Don't get me wrong, I don't want to be that girl that breaks up another man and his girlfriend. I couldn't live with myself. But I can't stop thinking about Tom. We have so much in common. We can just sit for hours and talk about all sorts of things. But whenever I ask how he's feeling for me, he says that "he's not in the stable-ist of relationships right now and he honestly doesn't know." He says a relationship between me and him could be possible if he were single. So then WHY is he staying with someone he truly doesn't like?

I know Tom and I would be happy together. But it's killing me to sit around and wait for him. He's too nice of a guy to break up with Melissa and hurt her. But then again, he's hurting me. What's going on?! I'm too head-over-heels to let go :(

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