Re: Thank you for this...

I ended up alone in life and that is a long story and not worth going into here, although it is relevant. I contacted my highschool sweetheart a few years ago, as even tho it has been 40 years, I still loved him like no other and never got over his leaving me. I knew going in that he was married and had been for 25 years.

I found out he had ended up spending his entire adult life on multiple antidepressants...but that is not the issue here either other then to show he has not been very happy. He wrote back and told me had never forgotten me either and we started to write to each other (we live 3000 miles apart). I started to talk him off of the drugs and we started to work out some of our issues, and get to know each other again. He told me he never wanted us to loose touch again, and that meant more to me then I could ever express here. His wife gave us the green light at first but ...to make a long story short, after a few months he cut me off cold just as he had 40 years before and it rebroke my heart so bad that it took me ... well, I am still healing from it nearly three years later.

Everyone, eventually including him, treated me like I was some kind of monster in that I had no business writing to a married man...but I just wanted, and needed, the warmth of his friendshp...as I am sure we are soulmates, if not twin souls, and writing to him (and sometimes talking on the phone) touched me in a place where I had not been touched since the night he left me when I was 18.

Still, it was judged by him, his wife, and his shrink as being "wrong" and so it was taken from me. I have not gotten so much as a Christmas card in 21/2 years.

Thank you for valididating my feelings that there is nothing wrong with two adults maintaining a frienship just because there is/was love involved, and that such a friendships can exist withing the boundaries of a marriage, and they can even enrich and heal the lives of all concerned. Tweet