Wow, pretty similar to my last dream...question? This man, was it someone that you knew or just someone in a dream? Also, what made you tell him to try asking another woman when he seemed to have hinted that it was you that he wants? Its an interesting play on words because he said if it didn't work out with that lady he'd come back to marry you and I wonder was that the response that you wanted? if so, why let him go to another women when it does seem you had interest in him?
Its amazing how the subconcious can mimic real life in a way because you wonder..why wait to tell someone you have feelings for them or just hide those feelings while telling that person to go to someone else instead of you? In my case, its similar in that in real life we both met, really hit it off...she dropped hints that she had feelings for me and I did the same towards her but, I never said them openly until it was to late and she's with someone that she really shouldn't be with...