Re: Life happens..

That really sucks!

If you need to take a brake you should, but try to recover to normal behaviour as much as possible even if it means going through the motions. That kind of stuff can make you spiral into depths that are difficult to get out of.

It is really hard to advise on these sorts of things because only you know the situation and it can never be fully expressed with words.

The last girl that I have been in love with was simply amazing for 3 years, she moved in and we were the best of friends. At some point I feel it got to her head. I should have realized it when she told me, "The problem with you is that you let yourself be easily manipulated by girls.". The alarm bells went off, there was just too much information in those words. Eventually things started to go down hill.

She started hanging out with friends that were shallow and had fun the un-natural way. She ended up losing her job, racking up 80k on credit cards and with a guy that added to her debt rather than help her.

We are still friends and it hurts me to see her in the place she is in. She is damn gorgeous and she can have any guy she wants, it’s sad that she felt she was "manipulating me" and not realizing that I let her use me because that is what we are there for in a relationship. Instead she is now with someone who is manipulating her, I guess he must be stronger than me.


...but what I realize is that when you truly love someone, you don't need anything back. You will always care about even if they are blindfolded. I still help her when she needs it, and she has admitted to me that the happiest time in her life was with me. I helped her with school, work and past emotional problems. The problem is that she saw that as my weakness.

What can you do?