Re: help please ladies! fear of first time sex

I am curious if you have ever used
tampons??

What are your personal feelings about
sexuality?? Do you feel like you have
have issues about men, your body, your
ideas of sex being naughty or nice??

How about any guilt of having sex
outside of marriage?? Did someone ever
say something which the child in you
may have construed as a criticism??
Or did you have feelings at some point
in your life relative to perhaps
discovering it was pleasurable to
touch yourself?? I remember discovering
my genitals and that touching felt
good. As a young Catholic girl I thought
surely I would go to hell since something
that felt so good had to be bad. I was
really conflicted but without the
advantage of anyone explaining this was
normal, I had to wade through those
feelings until I finally let go of the
guilt.

Do you trust your lover and feel like
this is the person you WANT to have
penetrate you in an intimacy which for
many is an important rite of passage??
My own daughter dated for years but
remained a virgin until she met the
person she felt so much love for that
sharing that level of intimacy felt
appropriate. Is your lover, the ONE?
If not, there is no reason for you to
feel pressure to take the relationship
to the next level. Take your time and
make choices YOU can live with and feel
good about.

How do you feel when you watch a movie
with a love scene?? Share more info
and just know that the distance between
your discomfort and comfort zone can
be minimized often just by looking
at a situation from a different
perspective and with more understanding.

blessings,
Zoe

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