Re: My Daughter - Depressed - On lexapro - Meeting with her psych.

Archus,

Thank you for the website! It is very informative. I needed a little reminder during the holidays. I've been eating so much sugar...and feeling it! I am going to start following the eating advice. (It's a new year...right?)

I wanted to give some more advice if you want it...

I think your family may be on a crash course. You can make a difference even if your wife is not willing. Your marriage is very important for you and your children. It seems like you and your wife are playing tug of war and your children are the rope. Something will break eventually. It appears that you are very intelligent and like to read to find things out for yourself. I have three books that I strongly suggest you read. What you do with the information is entirely up to you. (I am not a phych. I've just gone through a lot and hopefully can help others)

Read them in order:
1. Codependent No More (Melody Beattie) (This one is for you- my psych. gave me this one. It has really changed my life!)
2. On Becoming Teen Wise (Ezzo) (For the kids- See if your wife will agree with any of this. You may find that you guys have "spoiled" (forgive me) your kids a bit by making them the center of your family instead of making mom and dad the center. Remember your goal is to eventually get the kids out of the house. What will happen to you and your wife then? This is very common. I know your daughter is not a teen, but she is surely not acting like an adult right now!)

What about your son? Is he younger? I'm sure he is feeling pretty left out with sis getting so much attention. (Think about it from his view...you're taking classes and going to the psych with her when you could be going to ball games with him.) You may find him screaming at night soon. Or acting out at school. Or anything to get some of the attention you guys are giving her. Or he may just start locking himself in his room. He probably feels pretty crappy right now.

3. His Needs Her Needs (William Harley) For you and the wife...even if she won't read it. Do your part. You might be surprised.

Don't get me wrong, Depression and hypoglycemia are serious conditions. You just can't help people who won't help themselves!!!!!!! You cannot physically control what your children eat. You can educate and model. And not buy the junk. If your wife buys it then that is between her and your daughter.

The reason this appears obvious to me is that most of my problems stemmed from my parent's problems. I would eat sugary foods because they made me "feel" good. Then it was like a snow ball from there. I am 31 and I am just now getting things right with mom and dad. Please don't wait that long. When you start changing they might too!

Praying for you
Aharper...By the way:I'm not affiliated with these books in any way:) I just think they are helpful! (I think I might re-read them myself!)