Hi Archus...

I've read a post or two about your daughter and Lexapro, although I'm not up on the whole situation. Nevertheless, from reading your post...given that your daughter is in college (ie. adult), and given that she is 'determined to try another medication'...my suggestion to any parents would be to back off and let your daughter make decisions for herself. When parents continue to push their own beliefs onto their adult children, they are feeding the very 'problem' that they are wanting to put an end to. And all the tension your describing between different family members is an outgrowth of this.

Yes, your daughter may fall flat on her face. And perhaps that's what she needs to do in order to grow up some more. It's possible to love your kids and still respect them as individuals with minds of their own, and their own path to follow. Consider this, what if...in your attempts to 'rescue' her, you deprive her of the very experiences she needs in order to break free of what is causing the Depression in the first place?

And I'm also wondering, who is really having the problem with this? If your daughter has made the decision about using medication, what is it that you are so upset about? Is this really about your daughter...or is it about you? And, perhaps, your discomfort with seeing your daughters discomfort?

You want to work a little miracle...step back from the situation (detachment WITH warmth, not coolness), and accept your daughter exactly as she is. And be OK with her being however she is. That's good medicine...for everyone!

And, it's not your place to tell doctors what they should read or how they should treat their patients. It's your daughter's doctor, not yours! And if it were your doctor, then you would need to get another one rather than trying to convince them that you know better than they do.

None of us has all the answers. And the best any of us can do is figure out what is most appropriate for us!

Frankly, with all the tension your describing, perhaps that is part of what is contributing to your daughters depression. Stop all the disagreements, let your daughter make her own decisions and everyone needs to know their place.

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O