There are so many places to read about abusers. You can read, but you also have to learn...and believe. The problem with so many of us is that when things are good, they are really good. Not that you forget necessarily, but you are relieved, and let your defenses down. After all, this is the man you want to have, the man you are sure he really is. That's the danger zone. That's when most of us have gone back when we shouldn't have.
I hope that SS will show up and give you more resources, but this is a place to start.