"And in joy, we allow others anger, and realise it's not our business anyway, so we do not attach to their angry feelings, so remain in touch with our joy."
I just realized that this is what happens with me lately with people at work or grouchy bus drivers etc. Even if they are upset it has no effect on my joyful feelings. It feels kinda watching a movie which isn't real.
Basically the harmony is more indirect - this might not be the best term. I mean, the other party might not be harmonious but I am and stay nonetheless. Versus direct harmony when two people get in contact when they are on the same vibrational scale.
Now it seems the only time it happens is with my family - as it did with my dad a couple days ago.