Re: Words -looking at the intentions

Thank you so much for explaining and describing this so vividly - its so easy to see for me now. The first example feels depressing, the second makes me so very joyfull :-)

"And yet, because I am happy, I also allow you to choose whether it's the right time for you to see me or not ... you don't need to worry about me because I am happy with or without you because I know how to take care of my own happiness"

This is HUGE, because it takes all pressure away. It doesnt matter we get together now or later when he is ready and its a good time for him. It doesnt matter even if he changes his mind about plans we had made for the time being. I will remain happy because his actions no longer have any effect on my happyness in life in general.

Since it won't affect me negatively if he does have a setback or plateau along the way ther is no more reason to bring it up later and expect an apology either or a promise to change. All is well already - whenever I see him or talk to him I'm just content and happy no matter what :-)

I still cant believe you and I had this conversation the last couple of days. I can feel that it made ALL the difference in my life, my relationship. He is the love of my life and I felt it from the start that he was the one, and he felt the same about me. I know because he has told me in his own way, his own words.

I wish I could repay you in some kind of way for all your efforts. BTW, do you do this professionally??

ooxx