You are right about one thing, Herb-gal,

"Sometimes one taking responsibility for their faults is a good thing."

One taking responsibility for Oneself is ALWAYS a good thing. What is yours, is all YOU can own. What is his, is what he can own.

Find your SELF, find out who that woman is, find the depths of YOU while you have the time, NOW. Before you allow anyone else into your world, BE WITH YOU. It is not a fun thing to do. Most people have a hard time being with themselves, without DOING something. Just for the record, sleeping is doing something. Mourning is doing something. Watching tv, being on the computer, reading, etc., etc. is doing something. To be with Oneself is to SIT and 'listen' to One's thoughts and ohhhhhh how WE do not like that! Our minds say this is not normal! Yet, if you can do this daily, for however long that works for you...begin 7 minutes a day, work yourself up, you will learn who YOU are.

There are those who claim in doing this for 30 days, working up to 20-30 minutes in that 30 days, they find comfort and calmness. Why not give it a chance? You are trying to feel better. What have you got to lose?

OH and for the record, Herb-gal, he was not a nice guy. He may have had his moments, yet there were too many 'signals' that you have said, that shows you are the winner of this end, truly. Not to say you didn't have your part, just saying his part was more than you really understand.

Peace to you, Dear. Come back and let us help you through anything you need (if we are able).

With Love, Light and Peace,
Beth