wow that's so funny because i had an intense obsession with my lips too before i got this. i would check them all day, and they were fine. i also had an obsession with rubbing them together, not necessarially licking them.
i got ex cheilitis i think because i was obsessed with using blistex like 10 times a day on my lips. then i tried switching to chapstick and i got an allergic reaction to the fragrance in it, so i had to stop using everything on my lips until i figured out what i was allergic to. i think my lips suffered from withdrawal and then the skin started cracking and peeling and never stopped.
so are you suggesting that since people that get ex cheiltis are usually obsessed with their lips, that if we try super hard to just ignore our lips and not obsess that they will improve?