I enjoy what you said about being in love and that makes a lot of sense to me; when we are in love...the troubles of the world vanish...and we are living in the light.. I have seen a time for the earth when she will be in love again...no more death and dying...no dark spirits clinging on her...but today... I will walk out of my home into the day...and I will work with those who cry for their losses...they long for comfort... I can do something about it... but there is an amazing amount of cruelty in the world... and when I go to sleep tonight...there will be an amazing amount of unfathomable cruelty still... How can I be in love with cruelty? Where is the oneness of cruelty? The little boy who is bullied in school and grows up an become a soldier and returns the cruelty by killing others...then comes home from war to become a cop where he bullies drivers...he bullies his wife and child and his child become the bully on the playground... Without empathy there can be no forgiveness...Without forgiveness...there can be no compasion.... I can forgive cruelty... but only when I act to relieve that cruelty can I attain oneness... I have been in love many times and each time I in the middle of it... I didn't help anyone... I didn't see cruelty but it was there... I just lived for being in love... Maybe I believe in love but I do not see everything as love while I am on this side of things... I actually try each day to relieve a little suffering in little way... Maybe I am missing the whole oneness thing though... I have empathy because I see pain... I feel the children of the world cry... I feel their suffering... If I act from a place of cruelty to avenge that suffering then I am tainting the light... I don't believe that love is a shade of gray... I am a student of love though... How can I become one in this world if there is even one child who suffers? I am a father many times and when my babies cry... I go to them...but there are so many babies out there who have no father or mother to come to them.... I know I am rambling... I just don't quite understand how oneness,,,ignoring cruelty... is the answer to cruelty...