Hello! Well I know this message is a little old, but maybe you are still looking for help. I am new to this site, and your message was the first I read. First off I would recomend reading Paul Chek's bood Eat Move & be Healthy. I am a CHEK Exercise Coach and deal with your issues every day with new clients. I recommend going to checkinstitute.com and finding a check practitioner near you to healp you. They will tell you what types of foods you should be eating and in what ord you should do things and teach you how to reduce stress and still spend time with your family. they can also keep the rest of your family healthy as well. The big thing is you are having a lot of problems, and to get them all worked out you need a profesional that deals with those issues every day. good luck to you.