Have you ever thought about how many women there are out there who have a man, but are so lonely? i have a lot of friends who complain about that very thing. Their husbands are so unattached to them they feel like their maid. So, you may be lucky and just don't know it.


But, on the other hand, all you may need to do is become a little more aggressive. If you see a man you like, don't wait for him to come up and talk to you. Go up to him, talk to him and ask him out on a date. What do you have to lose? There are a lot of shy men out there who are waiting for a woman to talk to them. Print some cards with your name, number, etc., and pass them out to men you like. I know someone is going to tell you NOT to do that, but when I was single, I was constantly passing out my business cards. In fact, after I got married, my boss wanted to know why I didn't need as many business cards anymore. I just told her I wasn't passing out as many cards to men anymore. She though I was kidding, but I was serious.

So, hang in there and your prince will come along when you aren't looking. For now, look for "Mr. Right Nows." Your Mr. Right may be just around the corner.

Paulette

Hi,

As I read your post, I thought I'd put in my two cents worth. If I were you, I would just focus on myself. I would sit down and think about my talents or any talents I would like to have and then find things to do that address helping me to become an overall "better" person. Go to night classes and learn something new. Go to interesting places and enjoy the culture. My point is that you'll tend to have a better chance at meeting Mr. Right if you are in places that you enjoy being and if you're doing things you love. Think about it. If you find someone while you are participating in a hobby or when you are trying to train yourself in a new skill, then you've already found someone who shares some interests with you. This, to me, is a good starting off point. It gives two people something to connect with before they know each other and before they can connect on a deeper level. Plus, in my experience, love comes when you are not looking for it. Concentrate on you and enjoy the time you have to do new things and enlightened you body, mind, and spirit.

Hoped that helped.

Hi, I am also a woman alone.
I would like you to re=read your letter. I counted 20 words with the word within them that is NO, NOBODY ...NOT...NO... NOTHING... NOW... KNOW. Also the word CAN'T, doesn't get a person very far. I would suggest you read a Book called "THE SECRET". Or find a deeksha with the Oneness group and get the oness blessing. I did that two weeks ago and it has changed my life. Learn to love yourself and then you will glow and someone will find you. STOP LOOKING FOR A MAN. Google is a good place to start looking for THE BOOK AND ONENESS BLESSING.
Doti

Hi there! I'm 11 years older than your and have been through some things that are similar to some of the things you have been through. My personal opinion is that we are more apt to find a suitable man when we are focusing more on living our lives to the fullest as is (i.e. alone) rather than on getting hitched. If you engage yourself in life and do productive,creative things that make you happy, your are nor apt to meet your man, or your choice of men. And even if you don't, you'll be happier. If I am not happy alone I am not happy with someone. I don't think you are doing anything wrong except, possibly, worrying about it. My significant other would say that women who have cats are not attractive to men and the more cats the bigger the problem is. But I have known many women with cats and other pets who dated and married happily so I don't think that is it. Just make sure the litter box does not smell. For me, bars are not the way to go in meeting a man. You do have to go out because they don't usually come door to door seeking a wife like the prince with the glass slipper. But for me anytime I went somewhere just to try to meet men it did not work or AI met the wrong guy. What worked better is if I went somewhere I myself really wanted to go, doing something I wanted to do and enjoyed. That is a win, win situation. Only you know what you are interested in. I met one of my winners while seeing an art exhibit in a big city museum. actually I just had to get out of the house the Sunday morning because my roommate needed privacy. I had nowhere to go. Finally decided on the Metropolitan Museum of Art-- were one Mr. Very Right just walked up and started talking to me. I know people who have made matches at their work or place of worship at a wide variety of ages (including middle age and up). The man I am with now I met at a place where I was doing volunteer work. But I was not doing volunteer work to meet men. Men like women who are kind and approachable and who like them. Some men think they like to take the lead in a relationship. Others think they like the woman to take the lead. Truth is they are usually just like us only male and want to be respected, appreciated, and loved just like we do. No of us really knows if we can get along with a certain person until we give it a try. I think you are just having a little dry spell. Maybe you still need a little space to heal from the past even though you do not know it. You sound like a lovely woman. When all of you is ready for a new relationship you will find it or it will find you.