It sounds like he is depressed.

Maybe he even does not know that.

I think he's addicted. I've heard that games like everquest are 'pure video game crack' and believe it or not it is possible to become physically addicted to video games. Your brain releases that feel-good chemical when you play. My guess is his behavior will continue to act like any other addict unless he quits it. him getting mad when you talk about the relationship is a warning sign.

Playing video games for a few hours a day is understandable. Taking up all your time with it and ignoring the things that are important in life is pure foolishness. I'm not sure he'll change. if he is depressed i think it's because he spends so much time on the video game (trust me, been there, done that!). Gaming is a lot of fun at first, and continues to be fun. However everything else in life starts to get tedious and boring, you can't wait to get back to the game. Depression is a definite possibility. when i wasted all of my spare time on video games, wasn't going to school, hanging out with friends, etc etc.. i was getting somewhat depressed inside, and ignoring the people i cared about.

Maybe try to invigorate the relationship by going out and doing things. get his mind off the video games to something else that's fun. try taking up swing dancing! or some other outdoor, physical entertainment. Exercising and moving around also provides the brain with the 'feel-good' chemical. It could help.

You may have to deal with the fact that the wonderful man you married has degenerated to the point of not being relationship-worthy anymore. Don't give up hope yet, but realize that unless he recognizes and acknowledges the problem.. he isn't going to get any better - ever. Life is short..

Hope that helped!

You lost him somewhere along the way. He's a lazy bum. Chances are this is the way he'll end up, sorry to break the news. Question is: What are you going to do now that you know the future? Not a life I want to live, I'll tell you that. Maybe, just maybe it's time for a showdown. But you better be ready once he calls your bluff! Either way, it's worth the risk. He can change for the better or you can find better. Life doesn't wait for anybody...time's wasting...

Definitely he is depressed!!! Talking to men usually doesn't work! They get very defensive. Simple small steps is a way to go. First you need to see why he is depressed. Sometimes we just don't see reason to live, and we get depressed, don't want to do anything good, but just kill time. TV, video games and food are best things to kill time, while we are depressed.
Then addiction to games, that happens, and we always need to give our spouses some time they can spend by themselves, but... playing years EQ? That is too much.
1. Find out what are the dissapointments in your husbands life.
2. Take small steps in taking him from behind the computer: you can actually sit with him while he plays and see what's all about, is he playing it mindlessly? Enjoying? Go with him and get him a new game, play together. Then after you regain some companionship with him, maybe start watching movies together, then quick walks, etc. I think it's important to see the reason behind it. Then share his intererst, after that you may be able to have his interest.
I am in a relationship for 14 years now, and have ups and downs... but we still enjoy our company a lot. Also my work environment is men mostly, and I hear them always complaining about their wives not having interest in what they are doing and not giving them enough freedom. Find a balance, and try to solve Depression issues.

I know exactly what you're going through. Within less than a month of getting married, my husband started playing EverQuest religiously, 14 hours a day. This went on for a while. Eventually he had to go to bootcamp and he had to stop playing. He never started the game again, realized he was playing too much, and agreed to stop. He of course started playing another game some time after, by the same company, it's called Star Wars Galaxies, and it's just as addictive and time-consuming. He comes home from work, and that's pretty much it until he crashes into bed and plays the next day after work.
We have have some of our most violent fights during video games. I always have to ask a question at least 3 times and sometimes don't even get an answer. I know I am important, but I get ignored a lot, and he gets this look at supper, like he just wants to get bak to the game. Supper rarely lasts 5 minutes. Then back to the game. His friends also play. He has a friend that plays more than he does (!!!) and that friend told his wife that video games would always come first..she married him even after hearing that. I just want you to know that you are in good company. I joined Wives Against EverQuest a while ago..it's an actual group.
Hope things get better, but they rarely do. I just stop nagging him and be nice about it..eventually they feel some guilt if they are human...mine is borderline sociopathic and he still feels a little bad when he does not talk to me at all in a day, but he does not feel that bad about it. Good luck. I am here. Hope I can help.

Casmilla:
I don't agree that this is a sign of Depression or that you are in anyway to blame for this problem! This is classical addiction, the same type that we treat alcoholics, shoplifters and druggies for. It is not going to yield to amateur attempts to change it.
I advise you to seek professional assistance. We often have to do an intervention for video games, just as we do for alcohol and drugs. Recovery is difficult, but it is possible. The first thing to go has to be the computer or, at least, the internet connection. I have even had to deal with cases where the internet was accessed via a dialup modem! Once the games are gone for good, healing can begin.
Don't think that you have to divorce the bum or toss him out on his ear! Most men come around in a short time, but most of them will go right back if given the chance!
I have found that therapy is an absolute necessity, but the traditional stuff is slow and painfully expensive. Look at
http://www.emofree.com/
for some ideas about where to get help that won't break the bank.
I hope that you find help and that your guy can become the man and the father that he needs to be.

Ask your parents or his parents to come to your house and take care of your child and you both take a break and go for a trip even for one or two days and make him realize how important he is to you and you to him... it all in your hands

I am sorry that your husband changed on you. Things happen, and if he doesn't want to listen to you then maybe you guys need to go seek some help to save or marriage, or you need to leave
:( I hope things get better for you though!

He sounds depressed ...maybe u should get marriage counseling and one on one counseling for Depression and addiction.

Perhaps he has realized what marriage is really all about and has used the computer to escape you and free his mind from the prison he has built with the marriage. Perhaps with you being a shrieking shrew he has withdrawn to a safer place so he can escape the sound of your voice. My suggestion is to let him go his way and release him from the prison of marriage, the hell on earth. Let the poor guy go.