God will bless you for your willingness to conduct yourself according to His Word and the results will be for His glory. I pray you will be blessed.

When the time comes you will know it is right. Far as pain is concerned though it happens sometimes the first time one has sex, it isn't always painful. Since I am believing God will send you your perfect mate I have no doubt that he will be patient and careful with you.

Be blessed.

Male point of view.....
It's nice that you are willing to wait, but sex is more of a biological need for a man. Simply put...men need sex...it's very normal. Men build up serious pressure.
The problem is finding just the right guy to surrender yourself to; one that will be your friend for life; to love you and care for your every need; to perform sex gently and safely.
In your case, you will need a religious person also, and I'd guess you will hope that he is a virgin also. However, if a man is still a virgin in his mid twenties,it will be rare. In this case, he will be under some very serious pressure mentally and physically as this is very hard to deal with; he has passed right thru his sexual peak without a female....almost unthinkable. I hope your religious views on masturbation are liberal...cause a man needs release somewhere if he's a virgin, dating and under pressure or he may be the one in pain! Good luck in finding just that right guy...you may have to settle for a non-virgin.

What makes you think that pain will be less if you have sex after you get married?? You mention "God wants .." Think who made those rules - humans!! Humans made those rules that you have sex after marriage. I'm not advising you to have sex before or after marriage but just saying that "You are simply following rules made by some other human .. be it religion". Don't bring god into all this ..

It is your morals or conscience or your fear of something or the way you have been brough up that is stopping you.

Don't take this post as "You should have sex before marriage". It is all down to you to think rationally and act.

Hello Neighbors!

Another vote of support here for waiting. (Now, I'm making the assumption that we are talking specifically about intercourse.) There's a specific beauty in knowing from experience that a partner has really gone the mile and is likely to stay around. There's more beauty in having some material stability in life first. Certainly people on a tight budget or finishing college can have a great marriage! But for me it always mattered a lot to establish a home base and, more important, chart an approximate life path together before a brand new soul gets beckoned to earth by anything that I do.

As far as pain goes, it seems that taking it a lot slower can help people grow more attuned to each other's wavelength, and that right there can avoid several causes for being uncomfortable.

Autumn

From a guy:

First, I can say you are to be commended for standing behind your convictions (though I disagree with your reasons).

Secondly, let me say this: unlike how society would like us to believe, to have sex or to not have sex is not controlled by the mind within men. It is governed by chemical reactions with hormones called testosterone derivatives. A man cannot shut off his need for sex any more than a person can shut off the need to eat or breath (unless, of course, we completely block the chemical reactions which would then interfere with many other physical systems such a muscle building, mood, and so on).

Thirdly, it is well documented now though studies that people who have sex regularly are well balanced, happy, stable people who typically age better than those who abstain. Sex reduces stress, releases hormones which help stabilize our moods and repair our bodies, and so on.

It is my belief that religion here in America has attempted to turn sex into a "necessary evil" against all bioligical reason. Sex is a wonderful gift, and like everything else, it should be enjoyed in balanced fashion. In fact, the key to life is balance.

As a parting comment, I'm not sure I'd want a woman who can abstain "indefinitely" from sex because this could be a glimpse of what married life would be like. I would see this as a significant concern. Regular and frequent sex throughout a marriage is important!

Anyway, that's another viewpoint for you.

It is a blessings to know there are still some young ladies saving themselves for their future mates. I believe you will be blessed for doing this since the designer of humankind planned it this way. Life's experience shows me there are consequences to be paid when these plans aren't followed. I'm on your side.