Here's an idea. Stop worshiping fictional religious characters, throw your religion in the garbage where it belongs and start thinking for yourself. You're here to experience life, not to be controlled by religious nonsense. IF you want the experience of sleeping with a woman, then do it. You're not hurting anyone.

No do not throw your religion away!! Sorry Dath but thats BAD advice.
Girl, I think God did a wonderful job when he created people. Guys are so hot and so are girls. (I think the top half of a girl is the best looking lol. Boobs are great but I don't think the "kitty" is. Thats just my opinion though.) But even though I think women are attractive, I know that I am not Bi -- just can appreciate a nice body.
I guess, if you are saying that you want to have sex with a female, then you have to decide whether you are going to do it or not. If you really believe that homosexuality is wrong and you have to answer to God for your sins, then its up to you if the pleasure is worth the end consequences. I am not perfect -- very far from it, but if you want if you want my opinion, you have two choices. You can give into the desire of your flesh or you can so No and pray for Gods help in overcoming this temptation.
Ask on the Christianity Forum and see what they say. Just PRAY!!!! Good luck :-)

Do you think you're bisexual? It's normal to think that other women are pretty, but do you like men too or are you only inclined towards women? I think that you should listen to your innerself about this and if you have a religion that's good, I respect that. I'm a heterosexual male and I would suggest that you be true to yourself and if you're a lesbian, then that's O.K., but be careful, experimenting may cause you more confusion. Only you know, how you feel and whether you would like to be with a man or a woman in your future. What ever you decide, is ultimately, what your mind and body tell you, although your spirit is an important factor.

Hi #24399.

Before anything else I'd like to say that I'm not a religious; however my point's still valid.

I think you need to ask yourself why God would give you the nature you have if He didn't intend for you to adhere to it. Last time I checked God didn't make mistakes; and following that logic means that you are meant to feel the way you feel.

I firmly believe that each person must come to find their own truths in the teachings or religion they follow. For example, and I don't wish to offend any readers, but the bible is not a word for word account handed down to mankind from God. It was originally written by a man (or men), has been translated between dozens of languages (many no longer in use), and has had several 'updates' over the course of time to merge with the goals of the rulers of the period. It is by no means an original and unbiased 'document'. Ever played 'chinese whispers'? How did your original message turn out? Not good I bet!

Of course, many of the overriding *principals* ring true in the minds of all people. Messages promoting peace and tolerance towards others to name a few.

However, balance this against the statement that 'man should not lay down with man' - a message that runs contrary to the peace/tolerance message used throughout the texts. You have to wonder whether this really is part of the original message from God; or whether it's an addition made by man at a later date.

Ask yourself: why would God give out such a negative, intolerant message. You may find that God didn't give it out at all.

Find your own truths. Find the overriding *principals* of your beliefs.



(You may also want to seek communication specifically with lesbian groups over the Internet; I'm sure this topic will not be new to them. Listen to their opinions, and how they have come to accept themselves whilst still relating to God.)

Honey, there is nothing wrong with you having feelings for the same sex. Females have been with females for a long time as well as males with males. I like men but I love a female too. I am female be the way. Females know how to please where guy are slow to learn and always get through before I am ready be through. Most of them couldn't keep it up longer than cllmaxing then get up and go wash or roll over and go to sleep. Females know how to please, cuddle and keep on giving.

I would be glad to meet and be with you explaining more to you. :-)

Hello,

I am female too, and was raised Catholic... but
over the years I have become spirtual... I call it this.

I had feelings for women at the age of 22, but they were strictly sexual. I use to read mens magazines, or look at the women in them.

I have never been with another woman, and I am now 38. I do have fantasies about them, but have never had what it takes
to go through with it. I somehow felt I would not like
how I felt after it was over, like a guilt thing. ::)

I am quite certain that the day will come when I will be with a woman SEXUALLY. I know this deep down, it is something I really want to do. The time is just not right now.
I always had guilt when I use to masturbate at a young age, it was the catholic thing, and my mother use to tell us, my sisters and I that masturbation was bad. :))))) Boy, did I have guilt. I now dont, and masturbate with no problem.

What I can say to you is... that if you are a good person, and are gay, you like women... you fall in love with a woman... then what is wrong with that? I believe... that we are meant to be here to be happy, and if you are not harming anyone, then nothing is wrong.

If you go be with a man... then you are not being who you are...
deep inside.

I think possibly, the time will come when you know what to do.

RELIGION, boy! that is why I dont like it that much anymore...
it puts such guilt on us. I had catholic friends of ours tell me I had evil spirits in me, and that they were attacking my mind, when in fact.. it was stress, and having lyme disease.
It was at this point when these people told me I had evil spirits, that I broke, my mind went, I thought I was not going to make it in the mind. Lyme disease was really making me go almost insane, so when someone told me this, it was unreal.

After recovering from my mental breakdown, I said to myself, no more religion, I am doing what I feel is right inside... and
if I want to use tarot cards, or the pendulum to try to help me with my path in life, then so be it. I became so strong after my breakdown, and I now know who I am.

Dont fret, be strong, pray... and you will be ok.



:)

Let's try something here for a minute...

How do you know it is wrong? Because somebody said so? That doesn't seem like a very good reason, does it? Yet, boiled down to it's essence, that's all it is... even if they have a title in front of their name or a fancy brass plaque on their building. And it's the position held by the majority of people. Does that mean it's right?

Do you believe you are terrible? Flawed? Beneath contempt? Any God, (or bishop, pastor or whatever for that matter) that would purvey that kind of message is no God of mine. I "believed" crap like that for years. Until I discovered it wasn't so. It's a method of guilt and control, wrapped up in a "nice looking" socially correct or politically correct package.

If you are having these feelings, then you are having them. The only thing to decide, is if this is wrong or right. Either you are: 1)a rotten, evil, despicable filthy piece of crap... or you are 2)just a normal human being, having normal human thoughts and feelings, and thats okay.

Quiz time! Which of the two above messages sounds like it's coming from God?

If God is love... well you figure it out. Remember, Jesus was (basically) cussing people out all the time because they just didn't "get it", including the leaders, experts, and most of his own followers of the time. Things haven't changed. :)

A religion that refers to it's people as "sheep" (just about the dumbest animal on earth) who "need" to be "led" doesn't think very much of its people. How could it? It doesn't even have any respect for them. Of course, for those who do not want to think, this is wonderful news! "Just tell me what to do/think/see/say, because I just don't wanna think for myself. That would require thinking, reading, studying, researching, evaluating and OH MY GOD THINKING FOR MYSELF!"

If I got out a ladder and climbed up on a three story building, and jumped off the roof... would you follow me? Use your head, that's what it's for. It's NOT just a hat-rack, anymore! :)

Its' a lot like the childish "hero worship" that people have. It's really just a hiding place because people are afraid to be what they could become, so they live their live vicariously thru some "hero" figure, be it church, political leader, superman, football star or whatever. A lot of us do it, but it's not really psychologically healthy, it limits us and narrows our mind and possibilities. It's the path of the majority. Easy. No work. No thinking required. Just ask us and we will tell you what to do for every little thing in your life.

Occasionally, one of the sheep in the pen starts thinking. Starts seeing that this sheep pen doesn't hold all the correct answers. This is the pastor's nightmare, I suppose, and I know from experience it's no "piece of cake" for the person, either. But I think that's where God wants us. Faith is good, but faith in what? Guilt and control? That isn't coming from God. That's coming from men who want to control other men, "wrapped up in a pretty looking package." That's all.

How about faith in yourself, and your better thinking (or higher self), instead? It'a what Jesus did, and told others to do. He didn't say it was easy. :)