My Dad 
lauren40
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My Dad died 4 years ago last Halloween. He was the picture of health, in great shape and just collapsed of sudden cardiac death at his favorite place - the school where he taught for 36 years. It was a huge shock to our entire family - one most of us are still dealing with 4 years later.
I named my son Raymond after my Dad as I was 3 months pregnant with him when my Dad died. I hate it that I have this great child whom my Dad never got to meet, although it is comforting to know he knew the baby was on its way. My son has some big shoes to fill. It is heartbreaking my son never got to meet his Grandpa as well.
My Dad died on a Tuesday afternoon. I spent the Sunday prior with my parents watching a football game and eating dinner. My Dad walked me to the car and we embraced. As I sat in the car, I watched as my parents waved to me and then walked back into the house with their arms around each other. It is my last memory of my Dad. At that moment, I got a chill and thought to myself, "if this is the last time I see either of them, what a great memory I will have". I have no idea why that thought went through my head but I remembered that thought the day after he died.
I miss my Dad more than words can say. My Mom, Susan, said he paid many visits to her the first few months after his death. His best friend Kevin said he had visits as well. I have never received a visit (to my knowledge) and just want him to know how much I love him and miss him. Does he have anything to say to me?? I would love to know how to open up and receive any messages.
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Hi,
I'm so very sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad a year and a half ago at the young age of 53.
Don't feel sorry for your son, not getting to meet his grandpa, you need to look at this in a new light. Which would be that your son and your Dad already know and have known each other for many lifetimes. Your Dad is always around you and your son and your Mom and other family members.
He died quickly, he didn't suffer, he was a little confused at first but with the light he was able to quickly understand and accept his passing. He's happy and healthy it was just his time to go. He wants you to be able to move forward with your life and enjoy your son. Although you may not realize it your wasting preciuos time and before long you son will be a teenager. This isn't about him, it's about you and the sorrow and guilt you have created from your own grief. Let it go...... And as far as your son filling the big shoes of your dad, he already has.
Blessings,
Libra
- Re: My Dad lauren40
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This is a reply to # 500,688Libra,
Thank you so much for your response. It really means a lot to me. My father passed away at the young age of 64. And to think your father was taken from you at a much younger age. Please accept my condolences for your loss.
Can you please explain what you mean by saying my son has already filled his Grandpa's big shoes? My father was a high school teacher for 36 years and taught and helped tens of thousands of young people over the years. His effect on them was evidenced by the thousands that showed up at his funeral to pay their respects. I had many people come up to me and tell me that my Dad was like a father to them and/or helped them immensely during their high school years. I was never so proud of him, but still feel cheated that he is no longer around for me to talk to every day or to hug when I see him.
Every second with my son is very precious. He is the most amazing and special thing that has ever happened to me. After many years of searching, my family is now complete with a great husband and son and I am very happy. I know probably every parent feels this, but I truly know my son is special and has great things in store for him. I was never able to get pregnant before and had him when I was nearly 37. I have not been able to maintain a pregnancy since. I strongly feel there is a reason he was born and that he will fulfill a strong purpose here on Earth.
Can you tell me how I can be more aware of how my Dad is around us all the time? I want so much to reach out to him.
Thanks so much!
God bless
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This is a reply to # 500,689Hi,
Your son will do great things in his life, just as your dad did. By his birth he has already brought so much joy and love to so many.
There is no easy way to say this so PLEASE understand it as it is meant to be understood.
Your son has replaced your dad, in the sense that your son will pick up and carry on where your dad left off. Does that make sense. I really hope so.
To talk with your dad, try sitting alone in a quite place and relax, and ask you dad to come and visit with you. Be patient, sometimes it will come as a little voice in your head that you "Know" is not your own. Most importantly do be AFRAID! If he knows your afraid then he will not come.
Another thing you can try is get a piece of paper and a pen sit down alone in a quite place but the pen on the paper and concentrate on something simple. NOT your dad but maybe on your favorite flower, repeat the name of the flower over and over agin. Then while still thinking of only the flower start to write. This is a form of automatic writing better know as channeling. The purpose is to get your dad to cominucate with you, in a way that is comfortable for you. Oh, and of course after you get ready to write ask him out loud to please comunicate with you by writing.
PLEASE let me know how this works for you. If not I have more suggestions.
God Bless,
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- Re: My Dad Lauren40
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This is a reply to # 500,690Libra,
Thank you for these suggestions. I will give them a try and hope they work. I just don't understand why others have had remarkable things happen to them shortly after his death (my Mom and his best friend) but I never heard or saw anything. Maybe because I was pregnant, he didn't want to upset me or do anything that may harm the pregnancy. I don't know.
Hopefully these suggestions will show me the way.
Thanks!
- Re: My Dad sunnydisposition
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This is a reply to # 500,698HI there...
Here's what I am feeling... you are not "wasting precious time" at all, nor do i sense that your grief has you stuck in any way. I feel you are dealing with this loss in a healthy way, and processing it in your life in the best way for you....
The reason some people get visits and others don't is very individual... my sense is that, as you suspect, you had "too much going on" with your pregnancy... along with the hormones racing and all the other things you were juggling in your day to day life, pregnacy is very stressful on your body...
your mom and your dad's friend are in another stage in their lives, where their days are a bit more tranquil and they are more "open" to such expereinces.
you will receive visits... you may notice funny things with your electricity, lights or tv turning itself off or on, phone ringing and no one there... these are also signs that he is around
he is around you all the time, and often stands near you when you are in your special chair, is what i see, especially when you are sitting with your son
hope this brings you some peace
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This is a reply to # 500,707Hi,
Welcome to the forum. I believe you misunderstood my meaning of
"wasting precious time" and she does feel grief, which yes, is very normal. I'd be concerned if she didn't. I believe she is looking for more than a flickering light. But, I also believe that it would do her more harm than good right now to "see" her father standing over her during the night. As I told her when the time is right he will communicate with her, in a way that she trusts is realy him. In a manner that is special to the both of them. I also told her that he is ALWAYS with her. My son died 8 years ago and I have seen him once in a dream a few months after he passed. But, he lets me know he is around in other ways, that I know is him.
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