I'm going on something like 114 weeks now since I got dumped without moving on so all I can say is there's worse off than you.

Dear 41858, Have you ever heard of depression? You never said why you dumped your boyfriend. If I read you right, you could be suffering from hormonal problems. Please get a checkup, and tell your doctor your problems; female doctors are more sympathetic.

Although you didn't ask for something to read that may be a good idea. Maybe in addition to feeling lonely you have something physically wrong that is bothering you and together they both can give you that feeling of being sick.

Even though everyone wants to divest themselves immediately of the feelings of being alone, I think Mooney's advice on that makes sense. While you can't change the way you feel in the blink of an eye, you can look to others for information like at a convention where you are not required to talk to people--unless you want to talk.

If you haven't thought of this before, consider going to a health convention near you. Being at a convention will help you look outside yourself and that can help lift your mood temporarily.

I know there is one convention that is low cost and with a pleasant outdoor garden setting. If restoring your health or improving it is an interest of yours, then you may meet new people who share your interest. Many of the speakers are known world-wide. Many are controversial and have been put through many legal harassments for sharing their views (on how to restore health with the least amout of pain) with the public. Check the speakers' program for anything usefull to you.
(They have good lentil soup, $6.)

Links for information about the convention:
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http://www.cancercontrolsociety.com

I thought I was the only one going through this. I can't even tell the story because it would be like repeating the same exact situation I just read. The funny thing about it I never thought I would be caught in a situation like this one.

I have been involved in many relationships, they ended and I kept moving on, but there is something about this one, that knocked me back a loop. I really loved this chick, I never took a day for granted, after 2 years holding hands with her was just like the first day. When I am doing my best to keep busy, and I have a lot to keep myself busy. One second of not doing something and I find myself asking questions to someone who isn't even around. Like, "what was it about me that I could have changed, that would have worked things out? Doesn't any of the things we shared mean anything to you? Are you hurting as much as I am?

I refuse to call her or email her, but you can bet that I will check my emails and voice mails to see if she is calling me. Everyone I know says it will take time, everyone. The funny thing about it is she was very selfish, but when she was at her best, she couldn't be touched.

I don't even feel interested in anyone else, and I believe she is getting on with her life pretty much, at least I don't think she is thinking about me the way I am thinking about her.

I am working on two businesses, taking two separate career courses, and work a regualar job, with hobbies in between, so its not like I am just sitting around not doing anything. Another funny thing is I don't know if I really want her back, or just that I wished it had worked. Because its been over three months, first she was with someone else, then she wasn't with anyone. But from the time she was with someone, she had sex, and that was kind of like a killer to me.

So in my mind I think it would take a lot to erase that, but then another part of me says, all I need is to be convinced that she loves me and nothing else matters. However no one person should have that much power over another, and a part of me says it's best to go through this pain, so you can stand alone, and not have to have anyone to depend on. Then I say well what is life all about if you can't share it with someone special. So now I don't even try to watch movies that have to deal with love, because it only hurts, and I always see me and her in the acts.

But I have to say, my trust in another relationship doesn't look to good, I don't need to go through this again.

12/12/07 A lot of time has gone by, and looking back I can see a few things I wasn't able to see then. First the best thing I could have ever done was to forget about anything connecting me to the past. You do live after a broken relationship, and you do smile again. In between that is time to get your life in order, do some of the things you should have been doing a long time ago. Test yourself, see if you can make that come back, and don't worry you can and will. Try your best to forgive no matter how things ended.

There is so much more to life than just one person, thou one person can make a difference, you find there are many things in the world that CAN make a difference if you let it. One arm, One leg, Blind, Education, HIV, etc. We can't let an excuse interfer with our happiness and the goals we have planned for ourselves.

I have had the opportunity to get back with the one mentioned above and for a while things were what I had hoped they would be, but then patterns arised and I founded that thou I could be faithful to her, she didn't seem to have the same ability. So finally it ended, really ended and I got on with my life. From time to time when I hear a song or the weather is just right she still does enter my mind.

Anything I can help you with please contact me at Afriend137@yahoo.com

If you wanna get over it you're diong exactly the right thing.
By relating to people and just talking about it the suffering becomes less and less (I hope so.)
If you find your thoughts drifting back to him remember the bad points, not the good. This will help you to distance yourself from him.
I find myself rembering people fondly and wondering why we fell out about such and such a thing or why i was dumped or why this and why that and in the end it's pretty pointless. Memories tend to keep the good and lose the bad which is part of the problem i think.

If you believe in God then try and treat it as a test, that will strengthen you and just make you a stronger peerson and more able to deal with this kind of stuff if it happens again.