Am i being unreasonable or has my gi... 
Biscuit
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Today she wrote me a nice love letter, now its her cousins 21st this weekend.
I cant stand her cousin as shes horrible, she slags my girlfriend off, she says she hates my guts, and if my girlfriend goes out bowling or wherever with her best mate and her, her cousin will text this mate and tell her she doesnt want me coming.
Now ive been invited to this party, my girlfriend wants to show me off to the rest of her family.
But i do not want to go, cause i feel her cousin is only doing it for attention, 'everyone look at me im 21'. etc etc.
And why should i put myself out for someone who slags me off and my girlfriend.
I text my other half at lunchtime and said thanks for letter, how are you, miss you etc.
she text back etc, and said her cousin asked if i was coming to the party.
To which i text back 'Tell her to f*** off, or just tell her im working'. At the end of my expletive i put a smiley face as im not that nasty to say that.
I even text her telling her i was joking straight away, and just to tell her im working and need the money.
Okay shes lying to her but i cant expect her to tell her cousin im not going for other reasons.
She knows how i feel about her cousin and she and her mate dont like her much either as shes mardy etc.
Now ive been to work tonight and i always get a text of my girlfriend, but tonight i didnt have one, she didnt even text me back to acknowledge the fact that im not going to the party.
Personally i think shes got the hump about it.
I might just let her get on with it.
Its not like her at all, but then again i went downstairs last week to watch tv (first time id done it) cause i couldnt sleep and she got the impression we had fallen out and wasnt sure if she loved me anymore (she was drunk at the time, and has now said sorry) all over this party thing.
I just got to p****d off that i went downstairs, i just wanted to avoid an arguement.
I dont know what to think, and im not going to text her, ill just let her get on with it and see what happens.
Or am i being silly?
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- Re: Am i being unreasonable or has m... #163128
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This is a reply to # 331,052I think that you should just go, for your girlfriend's sake. Are you planning on skipping every get-together that her cousin could possibly be at? I'm telling you from experiance-- she won't tolerate that forever. And from the way she's acting, it sounds like she doesn't want to deal with it now. Why don't you just suck it up and go, and don't give her cousin the time of day. If she tries to start stuff with you, she'll be the one looking like an ass. She'll probably be so busy entertaining her other guests that she won't even bother with you. But you should probably try to end all of this will her asap, to avoid future problems. Can't your girlfriend sit down with her cousin and ask her what she has against you? I know she had a problem with her also, but they are cousins, and should try to work it out. It also sounds like you and your girlfriend have some issues to work out too. You didn't include too much info about that, but it sounds like it. So why don't you call her (not text her) and talk to her about what's going on. It's silly to play games, and that's what it sounds like the two of you are doing
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- Re: Am i being unreasonable or has m... Tom
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This is a reply to # 331,067I didnt go in the end, i went to the BBQ the next day and things were fine there.
Her cousin was friendly etc etc etc.
Me and my girlfriend talked last night.
It turned out she had no credit on her fone so thats why she didnt text me, she was annoyed at the fact that i didnt tell her i didnt want to go at the first attempt, but i just didnt want to hurt her.
Weve been to they gym today and had a good time together, things seem okay the minute.
We have had issues and weve talked over them.
Mostly they are caused by drunken rants and actions.
Were as bad as each other really.
She told me last night (and times before) that she wants to get engaged to me.
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This is a reply to # 331,083She wants to get engaged, or she wants to get married? There's a big difference. Well, i'm glad things are going ok now. But it still seems like the two of you have alot to work out before marriage comes into the picture.
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This is a reply to # 331,052You're being silly.
Spit it out with her. Tell her how you feel about her cousin, and how you dislike her stepping all over your girlfriend.
Point out how much it hurts you to see that happen to her, and how much you hate her cousin because of it.
If she gets upset, and thinks you're being an @$$, then she doesn't respect you enough, and perhaps she's being unreasonable, and probably doesn't deserve your love.
Her telling you "I don't love you anymore." while she's drunk might have been a bad move. It could be something deep in her mind, yet she doesn't want to tell you, because she doesn't want to hurt you. On the other hand, it could be babbling nonsense. The only way you can find out is to get her drunk again and test her out, and to listen to all that she says, regardless of whether or not it's about you or something else. Then you'll know for sure whether or not she's just blabbering nonsense, or if she really means it deep inside.- Re: Tom
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This is a reply to # 331,091She said that because i went downstairs and she thought she had done wrong.
She has now written me a letter telling me she cant live without me, etc etc etc.
She spent the night with me and has done since the incident.
She said "If i didnt love you then i wouldnt spend the night with you"
She text me saying she is a stupid bee'atch for even thinking about finishing with me.
I can see where your coming from though.
And fallenmoonstar was right, there are more issues than meets the eye.
Basically she was ill and had to take these tablets and these messed the contraceptive pill up.
So she cant have sex for a bit until next week.
This was 9 weeks ago, so i do other stuff to her yet i get barely nothing in return.
Two occasions ive had something in the 9 weeks.
I get frustrated, so this morning we were in bed and i mentioned that she hardly does it to me and she replied 'yeh rite whateva' (she had touched it and says its not fair for you to go to work feeling horny). Now i didnt expect anything at 7:20am but was there any need for that answer? So sarcastically i said 'ill do it myself then' and she said 'no you wont'
Now ive been very patient and waited and waited, i could have gone off and had sex elsewhere but no i love my girlfriend too much to hurt her and its not her fault she was ill.
A female friend says i should talk to her but is there any point when i get such a reply? And how could i approach the subject?
Im just starting to get to the end of my tether.
Mentally she can be really loving and she likes to kiss and cuddle. And says she loves me and makes me stuff etc.
Physically im not happy.
I dont want to do stuff all the time, i like to hold her but just sometimes id like something more.
Am i asking for too much?
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This is a reply to # 331,091Last Night we both got drunk (for a change).
We had a good night, a good laugh and all that.
We got into bed and i was playing with her.
Suddenly she started crying so i asked her what the matter was.
She said she wanted sex (but couldnt as its that time of the month) and i wanted it, she was getting annoyed with herself cause she wanted to but couldnt and was thinking i might go and find somebody else to have sex with seeing as we havent for 2 months.
I started to get angry and i told her im not bothered about sex as long as ive got you.
She kept blaming herself even though its not her fault etc etc.
So i text her earlier telling her again shes my life etc etc.
She text back saying it was her hormones.
So from this POV i think it was babbling nonsense (like the other week).
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