9thbody
The words that are available to express all of the ideas, thoughts, concepts and feelings about anything in this world limit our thinking because we don't just 'say' words, we live them. Word usage (semantics) becomes very important in understanding and communicating. People will choose their words (both intentionally and unintentionally) in order to impose shame, guilt, humiliation and intimidation on the other person because their ego is offended by the other person's good character. So you will very often hear things, whether about God or not, that will make you feel uncomfortable.
(I think I might have been misunderstood about 'selfish' because I didn't express myself well, sorry). Being at peace with yourself is certainly not contrary to the Lord's will (except if it prevents the humility necessary to learn from Him and the realization of His gift of eternal life). When the Lord was talking to Moses at the burning bush and said that He should be identified to the people as 'I AM', I believe that He DID want us to know ourselves (and be bold 2 Timothy 1:7 SELF-CONTROL to regulate that power) and be at peace with who we are. In THEORY, there should be no difference (except rank and power) between God and Christianity, but, in PRACTICE, I could hardly say that is the case (sad but true). There are two requirements in the bible that are worth noting found in Hebrews 11:6, "...For whoever would draw near to God must believe that He exists and that He rewards those who seek Him". Everyday, learn more about Him and He will reward you. We are also to be sensitive to all the pain, misery and suffering in the world in the way that we should be able to recognize how evil causes people to suffer. We should be sensitive enough to not cause evil and compassionate enough to want to help those who suffer evil. When we are sensitive to evil and the ways that people mistreat each other (snickers, sneers, dirty looks, hatred, greediness, corruption, etc.), we will have reason at times to feel sad, dejected and low in spirits, that is why James 4:9 says "...turn your laughter to tears and your joy to..." because then, coupled with His gift of eternal, we really can recieve everything He has for us because, as He said in The Sermon on The Mount, Matthew 5:8..."Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is
THE KINGDOM OF GOD.
(our compassion blesses us)
God is LOVE.
God bless you.