the sins of the parents fall on the kids according to the bible. its not her fault she was raised spoiled, but remember the meaning of life is making sure your children have better lives than you did, so her being spoiled is only a sin if you think it is.

i'd say forgive her so she won't be angry anymore, if you still want a relationship with your daughter. she only hurt your feelings because she felt she was hurt by you. she is a human being just as you are, and a direct reflection of you.

humble yourself and make the first move of compassion, if not then leave things bitter.

both the parents and adult children suffer in the latter choice, and the cycle of not forgiving, anger, and bitterness, continues when her children hurt her feelings later on when you are in heaven, and she sees them as you see her now..

set an example of love that she can learn from and if not for her sake, for your future grandchildren and the legacy of your family.

lastly forgiveness never means allowing yourself to be hurt now or in the future, it means to move on from being hurt in the past.

This is another good reason for birth control.

Give up the fantasy she's such a wonderful child. She's a young adult lashing out at being tough loved.

Don't bother to read Facebook if you get your poor little feelings get hurt so easily there (and it seems you definitely do), eh? (they really are spying on everyone out of control so no loss) or if you just have to keep facebook, unfriend her and unfriend anyone who reposts her stuff.

It's a power game--if you act as though your world's ended and you're devastated beyond endurance, she wins and the abuse will just continue. She wants to punish you for daring to stand up to her.

Let's do a quick review--YOU are the parents, SHE is the child. My guess is you guys haven't got that relationship straight. Just avoid and distance her for now, she's in 'hurt mom and dad' mode, nothing's fixable as long as she is. Remind yourself you're trying to break some very unhealthy family dynamics here, part of which belongs in your lap, for letting this pattern get set up to begin with.

You surely know how counter dependent teens and young adults are; just tell them you don't want contact anymore and like any rebellious kid that's most likely what she'll want but keep her at bay until you see some real evidence of change. She may pretend so she can get close again to 'punish' you again.

And if she severs the relationship anyway, understand YOU can't 'fix' her, never could and lawsuits are just petty ways to avoid REAL confrontation. If need be, just let her go. I'm betting she'll be back if you can resist falling back into the 'ohhh poor meee I've loooost myyy babyy' box. Be an example of adult behavior.

Double masters in system counseling here. My further advice, get your self fixed instead of chasing this debacle around town and learn how be the adult you want her to be. That's bound to help far more than a law suit.

Life is to short to have toxic people in your life.
Disown her.