You haven't mentioned seeing an oncologist for your condition. They are the ones who will correctly diagnose multiple myeloma and do it through extensive blood tests and even a bone marrow biopsy.
I was diagnosed with multiple myeloma a couple of years ago and it was confirmed through a biopsy of the bone marrow using my hip bone. My multiple myeloma has progressed and I am now being treated with chemotherapy and I have blood tests done on a weekly basis which provides current and up to date status of its condition. In my blood tests they test for about 30 different conditions including red and white blood cell counts along with hemoglobin and many, many other factors.
I have no cysts or tumors on or in my body.
Multiple myeloma is something that you cannot self diagnose.
"Chemo works for a time but as the cancer progresses, it weakens the body so that it cannot recover."
Simply not true. When it comes to multiple myeloma it stops the progression of the cancer. I've been doing chemo now for about three months and am stronger than I was before I started chemo and my blood markers have improved considerably.
I've looked at and used alternative methods for even during my time with multiple myeloma and all they have done is made me ill with no change in my markers at all.
"I do my research - so should you."
I have significantly researched multiple myeloma and have all of the information that you have listed in your post - plus a great deal more. The majority of people who get MM are over 65, and males are diagnosed at about a ratio of two to one over females. I'm in my eighties and male.
Stem cell transplant as a cure is mostly for younger people - and that's not an option for me. In fact the kind of care that I'm receiving can extend a person's life for quite a long time all by itself. My objective is not an extension of life per se, but treatment that will allow me to live a more normal life. Currently I have received both benefits and negatives from the chemotherapy and the negatives are simply a part of the process.
The biggest obstacle to cancer treatment that I've experienced for myself and from what I've seen in others is fear. Unless you are in immediate danger of bodily harm or death, fear is irrational. Fear has its benefits, but to live in fear is not only irrational but physically damaging as well.
I've practiced daily meditation of an hour or more for over thirty years and I have spiritual techniques for healing my chakras and energy system which I use a lot. Were it not for my meditation practice I would literally have been dead a long time ago. We are each an eternal spirit and while we would all like to live to 120 it simply doesn't work out that way. Each body is our school house and I continue to learn in my Planet Earth experience on a daily basis.
I'm a twenty plus year prostate cancer survivor and refused medical intervention at the time (its way over done). I'm also a five year and two year lung cancer survivor with a malignant cancer taken along with a lobe on my right side and another malignancy taken from my left side. My blood oxygen levels are normal. My experience in all of that is assisting me now.
Sorry to hear about all the difficulties that you are having with your body. If you can get insurance I'm sure that you can get a diagnosis and when you have a diagnosis at least you know what your options are.
Best to you in getting insurance.